Retroactive Jealousy

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Can The Book Help Me?


Retroactive Jealousy Finally, I'm Out is written for people who struggle with the symptoms of the condition. The symptoms are usually characterized by the irrational need to obsess over unwanted and intrusive sexual thoughts about your partners and their past sex lives. Some of the most common symptoms of Retroactive Jealousy are listed here:


The Symptoms of Retroactive Jealousy



  • Obsessive behaviours - Over thinking about thoughts about your partner with another person i.e. an ex boyfriend, a one-night-stand, a 'friend with benefits'
  • Generalized Anxiety - feelings of unease, tiredness, drastic mood changes, nausea
  • Depression - feelings of lethargy, hopelessness, bleak outlook on life and relationship.
  • Irrational blame - placing blame on your partner and their past decisions for how you feel. For example, "If only he/she didn't do that with that person, then I wouldn't be feeling like this!" This is an example of an irrational conclusion.
  • Physical symptoms - muscle tension, digestion problems, heart palpitations, exhaustion and nausea.


Retroactive Jealousy Finally, I'm Out is designed to help all of those who can relate to the symptoms above. What makes the book unique is that the author - Joshua Fletcher - is a trained counsellor and past sufferer of the condition. He has tailored the book in a specific way to allow you to explore the thoughts, feelings and anxiety surrounding the condition, then guides you through the positive process of overcoming the condition for good.

Retroactive Jealousy Finally, I'm Out


Retroactive Jealousy, Finally, I'm Out is a revolutionary self-help book written by anxiety expert and past-sufferer, Joshua Fletcher. The book was released in October 2015 after being trialled by a focus group of people who suffer from the symptoms of Retroactive Jealousy. 


The book looks at where Retroactive Jealousy comes from; looking at factors such as anxiety, social conditioning, perspective, emotional trauma and the concept of esteem. Joshua believes that if you can nullify the anxious response surrounding an unwanted thought, then the need to obsess and be troubled by thoughts is greatly lessened. He also believes that you can rewire the brain and shift perspectives on the condition.